Forensic Thoughts

  NB Anything here about incrementalism and entitism has come from discussions with a trainee who knows more about this than I do, but if I get it wrong it’s all on me.   I was listening to a Radio 4 programme about kindness and the presenter did a vox pop in which people were asked why they might be kind to someone. Almost everyone responded that they would be kind to a person because they didn’t know what kind of day they had gone through, or how hard their lives were right now. That’s interesting. So, the motivation for kindness is the possibility that someone has had a bad day. Not being kind because you want to be kind, but to do someone a favour, help them out. Does that mean if you knew that hadn’t had a bad day you wouldn’t be kind? I think that’s fairly awful. Isn’t the point of kindness that it is done without any sense of return or because it is needed, just because it is a kindness? Maybe I have been a hippy for too long. I hope so. But this is not entir...

This thought is linked to a person I am  currently   working with and is a product of discussions with my supervisor, so thanks to both of them, but no responsibility attached to either. Also, I have to be a little careful that I don't inadvertently reveal identities. I expect all of us have been in a situation where we get a sense that we are not being attended to either as much, or in the same way, by a beloved. Often this is the opening act to the opera of being dumped, but before we have reached that conclusion (and it does take time as each of us believes that we are far too wonderful to be dumped, and I am sure that you are) we know that something has changed in that relationship. It could be spending less time together, going out less often, the conversations are less involved, there is less sex. Fundamentally these are all indicators that we are becoming less important, less central, to that other person's universe. We are becoming more absent, and that increasing ab...