Never Assume
Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself. ANAIS NIN This is a bit of older writing that I only now thought to post. There are some basics that we hold as important in our work, some that are even laid down in guidelines from the various bodies that we are professionally involved in. We think about vulnerabilities and boundaries and professionalism and confidentiality and the line of responsibility, be it management or supervision, and we respect people and are open with people and have the skills to discuss topics that might be sensitive, and we can manage anger and distress and we work hard not to cause distress to others and not to use our power to bully or harass or intimidate or cajole. Routinely these are held as being templates for our own behaviour toward others. Maybe it is only in adversity that we hope that these are also templates for others’ behaviour towards us. But what if they are not? What should we do, can we do, do we do, when there ...